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How can you break habits for good? A comprehensive guide with eight steps to success

We continue to create new habits every day and not all of them are bad. First of all, we need to understand what a habit is. A habit is when we respond to a situation or do an act without thinking about it. It’s like second nature. It’s one of those questions we ask ourselves later on ‘did we just do this' or that or 'how did that happen?'

Habits are ingrained into us. These habits can be thoughts, beliefs, or actions that we do, and they can be a learned behaviour from our parents or in response to the environment we live in. Some can be detrimental to our being and take us away from who we really are, without truly understanding.

We can also continue to create habits that continue our suffering, we can become addicted to this feeling. So, for the following eight steps I give you are in response to habits that no longer serve you. It takes 21 days of actively responding differently to a habit to break it. Here is a guide with eight steps to help you break habits for good:

Identify the Habit: Clearly identify the habit you want to break. It can be something minor and for the first one its best to start small and work your way up. Be specific about what behaviour/belief/reaction you want to change and be clear to yourself on why you want to change it. Understanding the triggers and rewards associated with the habit can help you develop strategies for breaking it. By identifying our triggers, it helps us understand why we do situation things and can help you understand not only yourself but your parents/others better. I have been helping people understand these negative habits that have formed in response to trauma triggers for years and it is not an easy task, but it is one of the most rewarding ones.

Understand the Habit Loop Patterns: Habits are formed through a loop of the 3 R’s - response, routine, and reward. Identify the three R’s that trigger the habit, what is it in response too? What is the routine or behaviour itself, and the reward you receive from it. Is there really a reward or is it something you’ve told yourself that it is a reward. By understanding this loop pattern, you can interrupt it and replace the habit with a healthier alternative.

Set Clear Goals: Establish clear and achievable goals for breaking the habit and take small steps to achieve lasting goals. Make sure your goals are specific, measurable, and realistic. Break down your goals into smaller milestones and then again even smaller to track your progress and stay motivated. The smaller and more manageable you make them the longer lasting it will be.

Replace the Habit: Instead of trying to eliminate a habit entirely, focus on replacing it with a healthier one. Identify a positive habit or activity that can fulfil the same need as the habit you want to break. There is always a positive to every situation in your life, you just need to step back to find. For example, if you are trying to quit smoking, you could replace it with taking a brisk walk-in nature when you feel the urge to smoke to help you tap into the beautiful calming energy of nature to support you.

Change Your Environment: Modify your environment to make it easier to break the habit. By removing the visual triggers and cues that prompt the habit in the first place will help you going into auto pilot. If there are emotional triggers, then take some time to reflect on where these come from. I have been helping people for years understand what triggers them and supporting them in releasing the hold that some of these emotional triggers can have on us. So, it can be done. Just be kind and patent with yourself. Create new cues that remind you of your new behaviour and surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your efforts to break the habit.

Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself throughout this process and with everything in your life. Understand that setbacks are a natural part of the journey and without the downs we wouldn’t be able to grow, and don't be too hard on yourself if you slip up. Instead of dwelling on failure, focus on what you can learn from it and use it as motivation to keep moving forward. Expansion comes from our setbacks.

Develop Coping Strategies: When identifying any potential challenges and obstacles that may arise, develop coping strategies to deal with them in response, such as practicing relaxation techniques, seeking support from others by talking it out, or distracting yourself with healthy activities or seeking guidance from someone who you resonate with.

Stay Consistent and be Patient: Breaking a habit takes time and persistence is key, so be patient with yourself and stay committed to your goals. Stay consistent with your efforts, even when progress feels slow or difficult. Celebrate your successes along the way and remember that each step you take brings you closer to breaking the habit for good. Just imagine how you’ll feel when you’re no longer suffering at yourself owns.

If you would like some help on breaking any negative habits you may have or if you want to under the root or trigger. Then you may want to consider having a 1-2-1 Energy Healing Session with me. You can do this by booking via the website booking page. Or you might like to join our Patreon group where we are uncovering more about consciousness. Either way, thank you for being here and enjoy the process of unlocking more of you.

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