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"The True Cost of People Pleasing: A Reflection on the Impact of Seeking Approval"

Updated: Apr 3

This morning I find myself sitting and reflecting on things that have happened this week to do with me being in the energy of people pleasing. Each event, conversation and interaction have all been about something I need to learn more about myself. In the moment, it's not always obvious or it can lead to you being upset or unsure about yourself but this is how we change and grow. It's funny to get this realisation when you reflect because you might not see it at the time.

My realisation this week ended up me becoming aware of a lack in the feminine connection where I was people pleasing. I didn't want to upset them but instead of setting my own boundaries and stepping into my power. I didn't. I allowed this trauma to consume me and I desperately tried to please the other person at the detriment to my own feelings, thoughts and what I needed to achieve. I bent over backwards, I put on a false smile and was careful about what I said, how I was coming across. I did this because I didn't want to upset them. It felt wrong to be like this at the time but it was like an automatic mode that I switched on and carried on running. It was almost like I was watching myself in action and I couldn't do anything to stop it. It just happened. But as soon as I started doing it, I become aware of it. I had to stand back from the situation. It took a moment or two for me to stop. Once I stopped, I then spoke my truth and stayed strong on this even if it was upsetting the other person. I didn't do it in a nasty way at all, I just wasn't saying or acting how they wanted me too. This all happened for a reason. I had to be honest not only with them but with myself. Yes the interaction become awkward but this was ok because I'm not going to please everyone.

This interaction was a steep learning curve for me and I know now why it came about. It needed to happen, so I could look at these energies in me. Find out the root but also for me to become aware of myself and to know that it's ok not to please everyone. It happens. We're all out here dealing with our own traumas and sometimes we trigger each other. The most important thing is to be true to yourself and follow your feelings. Which I learnt from this interaction this week. I learnt more to trust my feelings and when something doesn't feel right, even when it may appear to look good on the surface. That's because your tapping into your heart and your heart is letting you know the true energy underneath, the true intention.

When we interact with one another there is so much more going on then just talking. We have all learnt to put on a fake smile, voice etc instead of expressing our truth but our hearts can read this.

So, with all of this in mind I learnt more about myself and this in turn expands my consciousness awareness. Every day is a new day to learn, grow and expand. Today, when you get a moment, sit there and reflect on your interactions this week. Is there one that comes to mind straight away? What happened? What was the outcome? How did you feel about it? Then ask your heart what was the underling energy here and what did you learn from this about myself. 🥰

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