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"Unlocking the Ego: 5 Key Points to Understanding Ourselves"

The first thing to note is that everyone has an ego!

Recognising the Ego: The first step is acknowledging the presence of the ego within yourself and being honest about it even when it’s hard to accept. Understand that the ego is a part of your being that identifies as "I" and separates you from others. It often manifests and plays a part in our thoughts, beliefs, and behaviours that prioritise self-interest, self-protection/preservation, giving us self-validation, and superiority when we actually feel inferior. There is no shame in needing to have created an ego as it is a protective shield that we have all needed to develop to exist in this upside-down world.

It is created from layers and layers of dense energy in response to perceived threats dating back from our childhood that has built up over time. It is also something we have learnt from our parents when we are young and how they too act out in a ego form which usually goes against their true self. As children we are very connected to our hearts at first and over time as a response to trauma and witnessing our parents not behaving as though they are connected, we mimic them. You will find that once you start to break down the ego you will start to unlock more truths about who you are and who your parents really are. The first step is awareness of self.

Observe Ego Patterns: Once you're aware of when you’re in your ego, how you act, how you feel and how you see the world around you. You can then start to observe its patterns in your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Understanding the patterns are a key indicator to figuring out the root of the trauma and why the ego has to come out. This is something I have been helping my clients understand over the years. Notice moments when you feel the need to defend yourself, prove your worth, or seek external validation and follow how you respond to each interaction. Pay attention to situations where you compare yourself to others or feel threatened by their success/wealth/health/lives. Patterns tend to repeat and then once done so many times become as habit.

Catching yourself before you react in the same way as you once did is key to unlocking these habits. You have the power to overcome these habits and with awareness of them, you will. Once you know the patterns and the habits it is then a choice if you wish to continue down the same reaction. Ask yourself, do I want to continue to be like this or step into my heart (my true self) and see things differently. Its all about perspective and gaining a different one in times of perceived threats or danger help you regain your power.

Cultivate Self-Awareness: Develop a practice of self-reflection and mindfulness to deepen your understanding of your ego. Be kind to yourself and think about why your ego shield is there in the first place. Everyone has an ego protection to some degree. Regularly check in with yourself to examine your motives, desires, and reactions in these situations. Notice how the ego influences your decisions and interactions with others, is it fact? Is it how you really feel? By cultivating self-awareness, you can begin to disentangle yourself from the grip of your ego and expand your consciousness awareness of self in that moment. Mediation helps to calm the mind to give you a different perspective.

Practice Detachment: Learn to detach yourself from the ego's grip by recognising that you are safe and trust that everything is happening for your highest good. Understand that the ego is just a part of your energies of protection that you put in place for your survival, it’s not who your really are, just an aspect of you that you needed. Practice observing your thoughts and behaviours without judgment and letting go of attachments to specific outcomes or feelings of guilt and shame. This allows you to experience a greater sense of inner peace and freedom from the past. It is important to understand our pasts, but we no longer have to use the past energies to create our future. Be more present in your every day and start living. We are safe. We no longer need to be in survival mode. Feel free to express your hearts desires. In my sessions with my clients over the years, this is my main focus to get my clients to understand themselves and release our traumas that ignite their egos so they can start really living and getting out of the habit of being in survival mode.

Cultivate Empathy and Compassion for yourself a long the way: Shift your focus from self-centeredness to empathy and compassion towards yourself and this in turn will ripple out to those around you. This is because we are all mirrors of one another and the more we heal our own energies the more we help support others in their healing. Recognise that everyone is struggling with their own ego, insecurities and being vulnerable. Practice active listening, kindness, respect and understanding in your interactions for yourself. Talking to yourself doesn’t make you crazy. Journaling helps connect the mind and the heart when it comes to writing down our feelings and thoughts about our experiences, good and bad. By fostering empathy and compassion for ourselves you can transcend the limitations of the ego and cultivate a deeper connection with you. Remember to do something nice for yourself, something you enjoy, something that makes your laugh and smile because you deserve to experience all the joy and happiness that this beautiful reality has to offer.

Understanding and transcending the ego is an ongoing journey that requires patience, self-awareness, and practice but there are technics you can use to help you along the way. By being aware of the above five principles in your life, you can begin to unravel the grip of the ego and heal your trauma to experience greater inner peace and step more into your true authenticity. Remember you are unique, there is no one else here like you.

If you would like a 1-2-1 Energy Healing session with me where we can unlock your ego and get you stepping more into your own empowerment, then book a time/date via the booking page. Or you may like to join in on the Patreon group or follow on YT. Either way thank you for being here and enjoy your journey, just remember to be kind to yourself.

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